Development Highway

Being a spiritual teacher has continually frightened me. Not because I don't want to do it but that I don't feel adequate for the job. And yet, the role unwittingly is engaged by me as I seek out truths for our lives, who we are, what we're here to do, and other such questions.

The biggest problem is that while it may be easy to tell someone what to do, we can often times recognize that doing it ourselves is not always so easy. This can be a good thing though for the teacher to experience. It permits the student the luxury of receiving compassion from a teacher who understands the difficulties that this quest will involve.

As I wondered today about some simple events leading to these thoughts, I found myself querying the lack of progress in my life in the past. What came up was, "Have I been paying attention?" I realized immediately that a significant part of the problem was that I had not been paying enough attention. For that matter, I think most of us don't pay enough attention.

Paying attention to what? Good question to ask. I don't think that we pay enough attention to ourselves. We're so busy trying to do something, prepare for something, get ready for something, compete for something, to get ahead, to fit in, be a part of the crowd, wondering what other people think, that we forget to pay attention to the most important person in our life: Our own Self. How do you do that?

Online dating is just as much about promoting yourself, as it is about meeting someone. The key to a successful online dating adventure is getting the click on your profile. The more clicks a single gets, the more chance they have of meeting Mr or Mrs right.

Probably the most important part of an online dating profile is a photograph. Without a photo the click rate will probably be less than one percent. A photo can give you instant attraction. Upload a clear up to date photo that is close up so no-one has to guess what you look like. A single doesn’t have to look like a model, that will only bring disappointment on your first date. It just has to be a nice representation of yourself.

Most online dating services show when a single was last online, so logging in often will show how active you are. Other singles will respond to this and so will the online dating service. Profiles are closer to the top of searches when they are more active. Dating services usually have a “Who’s online” feature, so this will be an advantage as well. Dating services want more results, so they will match up singles that login more often.

It's been said that character is defined by what you do when you think no one is watching. What an illuminating concept that is.

Most of us have a public face and a private face. There are parts of ourselves we don't want the world to see. Typically, we tend to hide the aspects that would not be viewed favorably by society. Greed, lust, jealousy, pettiness, fear and so on. We also tend to hide our weaknesses. No one needs to know that we can wolf down a gallon of ice cream in an hour, do they?

I think most people are "good" at their core; decent, loving, compassionate and kind. However, even those we perceive to be good people are capable of unspeakable acts. How many times have you heard a convicted murderer's family member or friend say, "I just can't believe he would be capable of something like that. It's so unlike him." The killer projected one identity to the world, while secretly he was someone else entirely.

Out of millions, comes one big winner and out of billions, comes a winner who overtakes every other winner in the world. Look at the history of the world, and you will always find few individuals during a certain period who were winners of that time. Lincoln, Gandhi, Churchill, Roosevelt, were all winners of their time. Today we have winners in business field, but no one in the political arena. Mandela can be called as the winner of today's world in politics. The question is not, who is the winner of a given time, but what makes a winner.

Even in a small classroom, one student outclasses every other. In a dance performance, one troupe member performs much better than others and the same is true in movies. We always find one actor who lived the character, while others only acted. Who is a winner and what qualities are needed to make a winner?

Both the worst and the best of the great achievers had the belief in themselves and the resilience to overcome early failures. One of these was none other than Genghis Khan. There are powerful lessons we can learn from him.

In 1162 a child, called Temujin, was born in Mongolia clutching a blood clot - a sign that he was destined to be a great warrior. Signs like these encouraged Temujin to believe in his own ability despite early defeats. We, too, need to believe in our own ability, power and destiny.

Temujin came to rule the largest land empire ever known. It was four times the